You Know What I'm Saying and I've Got a Question for You Steve and I Want to Riff on It a Little Bit

There's like a spectrum between accepting the situation and radical acceptance. Once we both accept that then all the stress of having to try to be more goes away but that also feels really dangerous and scaryYeah well I mean you're framing sort of two extremes and it's interesting that you're articulating that the suggestion that I gave was a little bit at the one extreme of really low bar with newborn baby. For a lot of people it feels like about as much as they can do they're just white so it's amazing that that feels low bar for a many couples in their early years together.