In this episode, you’ll learn:
- Why “you’re not that good” might be the most freeing thing you’ll hear all year
- How to stop performing connection and actually feel it
- What your nervous system, your kids, and your future self really need from you
You ever feel like connection shouldn't be this hard?
We’re wired for it. Built to bond. Yet somehow, we live in a world where loneliness feels like a personal failure—like if you're not constantly fulfilled by your partner, your kids, your group chat, your job, something must be wrong with you.
We love to look back and pretend we had it better before. When moms baked sourdough and kids played outside and families sat down for dinner without a single screen in sight. But ask your parents if they ever felt truly seen. Ask your grandparents if they ever really knew their own parents. The truth is, disconnection isn’t new. We’ve just gotten better at distracting ourselves from it.
Now we’re not only lonely—we feel broken for being lonely. Like we’re doing life wrong. Like we just need to try harder, be more intentional, fix ourselves.
But what if the answer isn’t in trying harder?
What if the truth is… you’re just not that good?
Not in a shameful way. In a liberating way.
You're not supposed to be perfect. You're not supposed to hold it all together, all the time, with no village and no margin for error.
And the sooner you admit that, the sooner you get to breathe again.
And by the way—that line? You’re not that good?
That’s from today’s guest, Dr. Jody Carrington. And when she said it, it hit like a truth I didn’t know I was waiting for. She’s a psychologist, speaker, and bestselling author who’s spent decades helping people reconnect—with each other and with themselves. From psychiatric units to packed stages, her work is refreshingly raw, deeply human, and just the right amount of hilarious.
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