And you actually, that's so powerful because where my brain is really grabbing onto is this idea that there's actually three entities in a relationship. There's each individual and then there's the relationship. And I think you could probably say that about friendship. You could probably say that about work relationships. So if you look at those three entities and you're somebody who's into self growth, which I feel deeply that that's your plate in life as a growth mindset. So you've got somebody who's willing to own their stuff, somebody who's willing to keep working on themselves. And then you've got the other person in the relationship who's not as keen on that. And so they're kind of staying stuck in wherever they are on their human journey. And if they're not doing introspective work, you're doing a ton of introspective work. And now you're coming together into the relationship sometimes. And this, this, I've noticed this in many relationships in my life that sometimes you feel like you're the hardest working person in the relationship. And it becomes difficult. But yet when you look at that on the flip side of relationships is really honoring and letting somebody be who they are and not trying to turn them into onto your passions. So do we have any like tried and true ideas on how we take the entity of relationships and really pour into that entity so that both humans, both people in the relationship can grow as humans?

Yeah, such a good question. And I would imagine a conundrum that many people face is this idea that I feel like I'm the one leaning in. I'm the one suggesting the book or the podcast or the course or the therapist or whatever it is. And that you'll notice is often true in relationship is that there's one person who's sort of more extended and the other person who's more shelled up. And there's lots of different language for that. There's the term over functioning versus under functioning. You might think of one as being anxiously attached and the other one avoidantly attached. And so when we consider that one thing I would always invite someone who seems to be the one constantly growing and changing and then being like, Hey, do you want to come along? The first part is, is that a pattern? Like is that a childhood pattern? Were you trying to take care of other people help people change people, heal people? Because what happens is is we overextend ourselves and send this invitation and then we're continuously disappointed when they don't show up. And that if we look, is that a familiar feeling that you had as a kid where people weren't showing up, you desperately wanted someone to maybe you became a perfectionist. Maybe you became maybe you're now a therapist, a coach, a caregiver, because that's so often the pattern is like you become and start to monetize the very survival strategy that you have to get.