The Suffocation of Marriage

If we want to get to the top of mount maslow, but we have failed to bring our oxygen tanks with us, that's what leads, presumably, to what you call the suffocation model. I think, if we're too tired or lazy to invest in the quality of the relationship, of course we're not going to be able to make the summit attempt. And so the book talks a lot about how we can, in fact, aline what we're asking of the marriage with what the marriage is realistically able to offer us.