The Importance of Mattering in Love

What if love doesn’t feel uncertain because of the person you’re with—but because you haven’t fully chosen yourself? Many people settle for relationships that leave them questioning their worth. This episode explores The Mattering Mindset in Love—the difference between being chosen out of love versus convenience, why self-worth determines the love we accept, and how to cultivate relationships that foster security and emotional fulfillment. This conversation will shift everything if you’ve ever wondered why love feels like a guessing game.

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Key takeaways:

• Love isn’t about being chosen occasionally—it’s about being valued consistently.
• If you have to convince someone of your worth, they are not your person.
• The Mattering Mindset in Love requires mutual investment, not one-sided effort.
• True commitment isn’t about exclusivity alone—it’s about daily actions that reinforce security and trust.
• If clarity scares someone away, they were never fully invested.
• The right partner welcomes conversations about commitment because they value you.
• Settling happens when you mistake trust and familiarity for real emotional security.
• Speak with your feet—your actions should align with your worth, not just your desires.
• A great relationship makes you feel seen, heard, and valued for exactly who you are.
• If you wouldn’t tolerate a certain level of effort from a friend, why accept it in a relationship?

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Next on Passion Struck:

In the next episode of Passion Struck, John sits down with Natalie Namaste, an expert in self-healing and emotional freedom, to discuss how to break free from subconscious patterns and build a self-love foundation that transforms every relationship in your life. If you’ve ever felt stuck in toxic cycles, this is an episode you won’t want to miss.

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Catch More of Passion Struck:

• Check Part 1 of this series, 'Mattering in Love: Stop Settling—Choose Love That Sees You'
• Catch My Episode with Jessica Zweig on How to Be the Light You Seek in the World
• Watch my interview with Dr. Nicole LePera on How to Be the Love You Seek
• Can’t miss my episode withKate Bowler on Why There is No Cure for Being Human
• My solo episode on The Art of Listening: How to Make People Feel Like They Matter

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