The Pro Active Approach

The pro active approach is to change from the inside out. The story of joseph, who was sold into slavery in egypt by his brothers at the age of 17. He worked on being instead of having and soon he was running tho prison, and eventually the entire nation of egypt. If i have a problem in my marriage, what do i really gain by continually confessing my wife's sins? By saying i'm not responsible? I make myself a powerless victim.