Intention Versus Control in Dating

What does “going with the flow” actually mean in dating, and why does it so often lead to situationships, resentment, and self-abandonment? In the final episode of the Clarity Series, Sabrina breaks down how passivity, fear of asking for more, and chasing chemistry over availability keep people stuck in almost-relationships. This episode explores the psychological and nervous system reasons we suppress our needs, tolerate ambiguity, and confuse flexibility with emotional safety.

You’ll learn the difference between dating with intention versus dating from control or fear, how to identify your real non-negotiables, why situationships persist, and what it actually looks like to stop auditioning for love and start choosing yourself. If you’re tired of waiting to be chosen, afraid of being “too much,” or stuck in cycles of undefined connections, this episode gives you the framework to leave self-abandonment behind and date with clarity, confidence, and self-trust.

If you’re ready to slow down, trust your instincts, and break your old dating patterns, the Healthy Relationship Foundations Course walks you through it step-by-step  HERE!

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Chapters

00:00 – Why “Going With the Flow” Is Quiet Self-Abandonment

03:20 – The Clarity Series Recap: From Rumination to Intention

06:40 – Why We Suppress Our Needs to Avoid Being Left

10:05 – Situationships: How Ambiguity Keeps You Stuck

14:45 – Chemistry vs Availability (And Why We Choose Wrong)

18:55 – Intention vs Control in Dating

23:30 – Non-Negotiables: What You Actually Walk Away Over

27:10 – Limerence, Fantasy Relationships, and Dopamine Loops

31:45 – What to Leave Behind and What to Bring Into 2026

35:10 – Tool of the Week: Dating With Real Intention

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