TK: "It was both pain and torture and absolute ecstasy" There's the elation of being with those new partners. But fundamentally, there's a lot of reinforced, perhaps biologically, definitely sociological jealousy that's there. If your partner loves somebody else, if your partner wants to sleep with somebody else, there's some internal deficiency with you. They have to relearn that lesson over and over.
The Minimalists speak with Aubrey Marcus about relationship structures, commitment, marriage, open relationships, and more! Watch all 3 hours of episode 385 on The Minimalists Private Podcast.
Discussed in this episode:
How is nonmonogamy related to minimalism? (02:12)
What challenges have people experienced in nonmonogamous relationships? (12:29)
How do people thrive in nonmonogamous relationships? (16:19)
How do we create a healthy balance between giving and receiving love? (19:31)
What is “compersion”? (21:34)
What is “kitchen-table polyamory”? (22:55)
How is suffering contagious? (28:11)
What is “tantric technology”? (31:57)
How do we open ourselves up more for love? (34:58)
Do definitions obscure more than they clarify? (40:01)
How do you broach the possibility of nonmonogamy with a long-term monogamous partner? (45:16)
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