May: We get through every day, every really, every moment of every day that involves choice. I think we're living off our principles in the sense that to choose to do one thing rather than another, you have to have some sense that that thing is worth doing. There's a kind of value under structure that girds all our lives - and how does it stay in place? May: A big part of the answer to that question is other people. And there are ways that other people can behave that make us lose our grip on our own principles. That's what i mean saying we're not self sufficient.