Is There a Binary in Sexuality?

I think it's more common now for reasons I'm not sure that I totally understand where many men feel like they have to be very gentle and soft and tender assuming that that's the way their female partners want to experience intimacy. What that does, however, is it often removes the masculinity of the male partner. We're not including the diversity that exists in the LGBTQ community for sure,. But the most men probably feel that there is a masculine assertiveness to them.