"I think a lot of men actually trip up that taking care of your emotions is part of self care," she says. "Toxic masculinity means taking traditionally male ideals and growing them, having so much hypertrophy in those ideals to where they start to become maladaptive or harmful" The word healthy doesn't actually come from the masculine or the feminine; it comes from humanness as we're all like the human share,. She adds: "The real thing is to be a good human being."