There is an “awakening of self” that happens when people practice non-monogamy. This awakening has the potential to be exciting and exhilarating, but also frightening and destabilizing because you and your partner(s) may change in ways that you never anticipated. In today’s show, we’re going to explore a helpful model for understanding where each partner is during a relationship transition. This framework can serve as a useful practical guide when it comes to navigating the challenges that occur in the process of opening up or when exploring a new form of non-monogamy.
I am joined once again by Jessica Fern and David Cooley, the co-authors of the new book, Polywise: A Deeper Dive Into Navigating Open Relationships. Jessica is a Psychotherapist, Coach, and Certified Clinical Trauma Professional. She is also author of the book Polysecure, which we spoke about previously on the show. David is a professional Restorative Justice facilitator, who created the Restorative Relationship Conversations Model, a process that transforms interpersonal conflict into deeper connection, intimacy and repair.
Some of the specific questions we discuss in this episode include:
- What does an “awakening of self” look like? How can opening up a relationship change you?
- What are the 5 different stages in the process of self-awakening?
- Why do partners sometimes move in different directions during a self-awakening?
- In what ways is self-awakening a positive experience? In what ways is it painful?
To learn more, you can visit Jessica and David’s websites, and preorder Polywise here.
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