Change is very threatening to how our brains are wired. Our brains are wired for habit and pattern and auto pilot repetition, even if it's sub optimal. No matter how beautiful your action plan that you've laid out might be, if you don't recognize that all habit change is going to include a degree of pain, then you're going to quit before you're half way through. And so rather than trying to escape the reality of pain, a better approach is,. knowing that i'm going to have a d tox and withdrawal period.
There are times in our lives where we feel stuck, be it personally or professionally. It might be in our career. It might in a relationship.
We’re smart, so we try to think our way out of it. But when we’re really stuck, thinking can turn into ruminating. And the more we think, the more we stay stuck. That’s when the labeling kicks in. The voice in our head labels us lazy, or crazy, or just plain unmotivated.
Today’s guest, Britt Frank, is a licensed specialist clinical social worker (LSCSW). She’s written the book, The Science of Stuck: Breaking Through Inertia to Find your Path Forward. Britt’s the perfect person to teach us how thinking our way forward may not be the right tool for the job. In this interview, she explains how we get stuck and steps we can take to move through it.
Episode Links
Eustress vs Distress
Cognitive behavioral therapy
Brene Brown
Peter Levine and somatic experiencing
Carl Jung and the Shadow Side
Bessel van der Kolk
William Worden and the 4 Tasks of Grieving
The Sun Valley Wellness Festival
Do Hard Things by Steve Magness
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Learn more about host, Gayle Allen, and producer, Rob Mancabelli, here.
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