i believe that all of us carry some sort of demons at some level, and those demons always come out. And so you can be proactive in that process, or you can be reactive in that process. When we actually wrote the book, we sent the first manuscript out to ten people who knew me and who were ofvse byas. They came back with typically great feed backs, some changes, little twigs, onyo, know, clarifying questions. We then took the manuscript and sent it out to 10 people who didn't know me, in some cases at allor just barely known me. Two people came back with with very venomous, very angry comments around the book
The Learning Leader Show With Ryan Hawk
Episode #289: Philip McKernan - Relationships Move At The Speed Of Vulnerability
Show Notes:
- Commonalities of sustaining excellence:
- Moments where they feel like a fraud, question themselves. They are more comfortable within those moments
- This allows them to bounce back quicker
- They seek and attract things that are outside of their normal comfort zone
- The Picasso example -- The courage to face the failure and own up to it
- "Vulnerability is the only way to truly deepen relationships"
- "When you say, "I don't know," it helps others feel empowered to help"
- Philip felt worthless at age 14. He felt isolated and alone, a burden to try and fit in. "That pain had a purpose."
- How to go from an isolated and alone 14 year old to a keynote speaker who moves people to tears?
- How to deal with skeptics?
- "That's okay. But, I would address it now. Couples typically wait five years too long to get counseling. Do it now."
- What do you do? "I create environments for people to go deep. I meet them where they're at."
- The story of starting this business on the side in an Irish pub.
- "The hardest time of my life was at the beginning, but I didn't allow lack of money to impact what I did."
- "What are you willing to give up to do what you want?"
- "I stopped making the journey about me... It was about them."
- Why Philip will not send his kids to college...
- "Spend time learning. You need to understand who you are. A classroom is not built on how to get to know who you are."
- The "Planes, Trains, & Automobiles" test:
- Kevin Bacon started his career with no lines... But kept working. "Be willing to put in the work. Run for the cab."
- Is "follow your passion good advice?"
- "Yes and no. There is a big difference between excitement and passion. I believe we all have gifts and so many people use their talents."
- "For you, sales was a talent, but your gift is connecting with people. To lift them, to help them, to build confidence."
- "We are all leaders but a lot of people lead from an inauthentic space. It's not what we do, it's how we do it."
- What is One Last Talk?
- "If you had 15 minutes left to live to share your message, what would you say? You need to share with the world to free yourself."
- The process creates freedom. People want to connect. This is "team deepening."
- Why write a book?
- "Everyone has the capacity to make an impact. I believe all of us carry some demons."
- "It's like five years of therapy in one book." "The book is by me, but it's not for me. I will never sign it."
- "One of the greatest burdens a child can bare is the unlived life of their parents."
