Celine says giving advice is a way to hide behind the advice so you don't actually have to connect and engage. She recommends tip toeing into it by sometimes even just knowing that phrase, do you want support or advice right now? Just practicing that because once you can say that your response depends on what the other person says. Celine: People will remember how you made them feel. That's who we are. We're emotional beings.
How are you feeling right now? According to Celine Teoh, we all need to ask ourselves that question more often — and be more precise in how we answer it.
Teoh is a facilitator of the course Interpersonal Dynamics, or “Touchy Feely,” as it’s affectionately known on campus. In her work with students and as a CEO coach, she encourages people to get better acquainted with their feelings. “Feelings are data,” she says. “In the rest of our logical lives, we would never make decisions on bad or highly abstract data. But we'll do that with feelings.”
In this episode of Think Fast, Talk Smart, Teoh and host Matt Abrahams discuss how developing greater emotional awareness can help us achieve more agency and empathy in our personal and professional lives.
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