294 | Life of Yum: Olivia Carter’s Sex Stories
Sex Stories
Nurturing Self-Love
This chapter explores the importance of self-love and the ways to treat oneself with kindness. Through personal anecdotes and reflections on upbringing, the discussion emphasizes the balance between giving to others and nurturing one's own needs. It highlights the significance of finding joy in everyday activities and the evolution of self-care practices as a means of personal growth.
Next-level self-love, playful acts of service, and a praise kink—Olivia shares how her everyday practice of giving and receiving has led to a wonderful life, her favorite types of dirty talk, the connections that make touch tantalizing, how she discovered her desires, and the ways she wants to give and receive
00:00 Seizing every opportunity to treat herself
03:51 Generosity of adults in her early life and her own receiving superpowers
08:05 Healthy romanticizing and an expanded understanding of self-love
11:38 The difference between romantic, platonic and self love
13:38 A love of linguistic specificity and astrological geek-outs
16:46 Communicating clearly as a Black woman and being born into a state of receiving
21:43 Allowing others to nurture and how it differs from self-care
26:45 Desiring romance that begins with connected conversation and exploring partners’ passions
30:13 How Olivia’s love languages stem from what she wanted more of growing up
33:07 Cultivating fulfilling relationships of mutual care
36:26 A baseline of taking care of herself in order to be of service to others
41:11 The everyday pleasures of walking her dog, experiencing the arts, and breathing fresh air
44:33 Opportunistic friend sex and wanting to be enthusiastically desired
51:19 The hotness of emotional intelligence and genuine kindness plus meeting people where they’re at
55:18 Needing mental, emotional, and physical stimulation for the energetic exchange of sex
1:00:46 Practicing dirty talk, loving praise while riding, and being turned on by doing a good job
1:05:39 Fueling partnered pleasure via real-time feedback
1:12:33 A love of sucking dick and doggy style
1:15:34 Open to receiving oral and anal in a safe, enthusiastic connection
1:18:53 Redirecting partners from cunnilingus and advice for fingering
1:24:47 Safety tips for impact play and intuiting types of touch needed
1:29:03 When she likes playing rough, hair pulling, and a hand on her neck
1:31:19 Very sensitive nipples and wanting to savor sex
1:33:57 Erogenous zones all over and a surprisingly sweet act of intimacy
1:38:12 Learning about sex from talking with women rather than getting a formal education
1:42:03 Unlearning what porn taught her and navigating unhelpful educational tools
1:46:19 Confidence and explicit direction about how to be touched
1:47:45 How her brother’s friends helped her be open with herself and others about sex
1:53:08 The sexual blueprint of what she wants to pursue in connections and knowing what she doesn’t want
1:56:34 Desire for playful sex that allows for the full emotional experience (including giggling while cumming)
2:03:06 Building trust, needing mental stimulation and a gradual pace when it comes to sex and relationships
2:09:10 Enforcing boundaries and why WE LOVE CONDOMS!!!
2:15:28 Looking forward to a partner who is as passionate about her as she is about herself
2:20:43 Wanting a long-term, ravishing connection with exciting experiments and open communication
2:23:41 Thoughts on sex with other women, FFM, FMF, MFM, and MMF threesomes, and double penetration
2:30:12 Approaching sex as an act of service from a selfless place
2:36:03 Spreading love by being kind and receiving people as they are in any given moment
2:38:42 Reconnecting to her artistry, sharing her natural gifts by educating others, and reflecting the kindness she’s received out into the world
📈 STATS | 28 straight (so far) sapiosexual demisexual Black/African American cis woman, she/her pronouns, single, celibate, thinking about dating, monogamous, threesome-curious bad bitch good girl with a praise kink into: compliments, intimate sex, foreplay, dirty talk
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