How Do We Identify When We're Being Controlling in the Moment?

The moment you start feeling out of control and an urgency to take action on it as a way to avoid your inner experience, that's a good sign that you're possibly going into controlling mode. Some of us have no idea how to be playful around our requests and fun and make it so that our partners get excited to do things for us. I really feel like and maybe I'm just telling myself this every day and it's an affirmation. But I can tell that Preston gets joy out of doing things for me. He doesn't do everything for me. Like he enjoys seeing the impact that his actions have on me. It just feels good, you know?