Why Am I Pursuing Somebody Who Is Not Available to Me?

We oftentimes choose a relationship that is impossible because possible relationships are messy and they put us at risk. People in all moments, all throughout life, people put themselves in situations where for whatever complex set of reasons they're not ready to make themselves vulnerable in that way. A lot of times people just do not want the possibility, the mess that the heart makes when we fall in love. It's frightening when people love you back because you become dependent on it,. Then they can withdraw that love.