How to Have a Conversation Without a Pause

i'm actually really uneasy going into a conversation without a way through the conversation uh while you just had a conversation with each other completely more or less unplanned for like an hour and then put it online that that baffled me how those two things could be true at the same time. i picked this up from this book charisma on command which is now a youtube channel um and he equals it a velcro theory and the idea is that that you know how velcro attaches to it itself it's like there's lots of little hooks so what he says is that during conversation you want to sort of throw out lots of hooks out there like in your answers to stuff that the other person can pick up on