There's a very good chance, based on what you've said about her, that she would get defensive and say, i was just in a rush. We tend to have more ampathy for someone when we can look them in the eyes, even more so in person than on video. But if that's not possible, you can do a phone call,. You can do a video call. And again, i highly encourage doing it face to face. It sounds like you're in different cities, so that i'll be challenging. But even if there is, when she maybe visits your office, you visit hers, if you can have this conversation face to face, it generally goes much better
Part of Olivia’s job is to facilitate communication and cooperation between her former boss and senior management. Since Olivia transitioned from being a direct report to a liason, her former boss has been shutting her out of precisely the conversations she’s supposed to be supporting. In addition to excluding her, her former boss often demeans her and dodges her attempts to reset the relationship and connect like they used to.
Olivia’s concerned that this politicking is undermining her reputation and will jeopardize her chances of being promoted. What should she do? What should you do if you find yourself in a similar situation?
In this episode, Amy G talks with Olivia about her situation and recommends tactics for her to try. By the end, Olivia knows what she needs to do to get her former boss to see her as a partner, regain a seat at the table — and politik in a way that benefits the entire team..
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