When Pastoral Advice Feels Shallow

Your boyfriend rages through walls, jobs, and landlords like a one-man wrecking crew. You've got coping tools—but is coping the goal? It's Feedback Friday!

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On This Week's Feedback Friday:

• If you want to skip Gabe's thoughts on Brazilian street muggings and the story of the weirdest yoga class of his life, you can take a Vinyasa and jump straight to 13 minutes and 30 seconds.
• Your marriage crisis got "counseled" by a pastor-and-wife duo who prescribed prayer and a Toblerone. You lost your church, your college friends, and years with your parents. Did the chocolate-and-scripture combo crack the case, or was something else doing the real work?
• Your sister credits a decentralized, unregulated form of Biblical Counseling with healing her postpartum spiral. Now you're depressed too, convinced misery stems from not obeying Scripture, and you're about to walk into a session built to challenge you on exactly that. Brace for impact?
• You're a Lutheran pastor with serious thoughts about charlatans slapping "pastor" on a business card. You refer congregants out, see a counselor yourself, and have a hot take coming on whether anyone should stay at a church serving judgment instead of compassion. Mic drop incoming?
• Recommendation of the Week: Hydrocolloid Roll — a cheaper, better-sticking, washable alternative to Band-Aids that you can cut to size for any scrape, blister, or zit.
• Your 6'4" disinherited wheat-heir "sweetheart" punches walls, rages at landlords, and has you one outburst from eviction. You've got Al-Anon, jiu jitsu, and Grand Master Carlos' mantra in your corner. Is that armor enough, or is the armor itself the problem?
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