How to Repair Rupture in a Trauma Story

How comfortable we feel around repairing is very storied based off of our own story so if you have not had much experience with someone else repairing with you or the idea that you've been able to repair and that the relationship has continued it's going to feel very difficult. So as you consider doing this with someone else you have to start with you or else you're not going to be able to to have the courage to lean into rupture and repair right?