One Action: Know If You're One-Up or One-Down

This episode will change the way you show up in your love life - whether you’re in a relationship, healing from one, or hoping to find the right one. 

If your relationship feels stuck, if the spark is gone, if you’re always the one apologizing, or if you’ve been shutting down to avoid conflict, or you just wish things were a little bit better, you are not alone. 

What you’ll learn here will completely transform how you love and how you’re loved in return. 

Today, Mel is joined by one of the most powerful voices in modern therapy: Terry Real. 

Terry is a bestselling author, renowned couples therapist, and the founder of Relational Life Therapy. His private clients are some of the most famous people in the world - and in this episode, you're getting his most transformational insights for free.

This conversation is raw, practical, and packed with tools that will open your eyes and your heart. Mel shares vulnerable moments from her own 29-year marriage to her husband Chris, and Terry brings the kind of clarity that instantly changes how you think about yourself, your partner, and what love really requires.

You’ll learn:

-What to do when you’re the one who always gives

-The mindset shift that makes real intimacy possible again

-What to say when your partner shuts down, withdraws, or ignores you

-How to hold someone accountable without turning it into a fight

-Why most fights aren’t about what you think they’re about

-And the habits that every successful relationship has in common

This is a total reset on how you think about love, conflict, and connection. 

If you’re tired of repeating the same arguments, feeling unseen, or wondering if things will ever change, this conversation shows you how to break the cycle and build the kind of relationship you didn’t think was possible. 

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