Helping others can sometimes be the first step to helping yourself. How do you change that self dialogue in your head? You start by changing the way t you talk to other people. It's easier to look at someone else in group and say, even though you screwed up, you still have value as a human being. And then they see it in you, and you're still confused. The problem with personal coaching or therapy is, if your therapist is like, you have value,. What does your mind say? Your mind is like,you're paid to say that. So there's, there's interesting study the respect.