i don't know if you saw, i shared an article on apologies as sort of costly signals. S an interesting set of studies done in japan. People who were told that the person in a cost to apologize found that apology to be more sincere and they were more likely to accept it. That seems, it seems right. I mean, it's like we i don't know. Some people think that what you really want the goal of getting some apologies to make them hurt in some measure, as like i in a retributive way. O it signals something, but i don't, think, idon't think we just somebodyt tlike, because it can be a relief
We’ve promised you for years that we would do an episode on apologies and never got to it until today. So we both want to say from the bottom of our hearts: we’re sorry. We recognize we’ve let so many of our listeners down, and we feel just awful if you were offended by the delay. We hope this episode will be just one small step towards regaining your trust.
Plus, of all the evo-psych articles in the world, this one might be the evo-psychiest: “Oral Sex as Infidelity Detection.”
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- Pham, M. N., & Shackelford, T. K. (2013). Oral sex as infidelity-detection. Personality and Individual Differences, 54(6), 792-795. — From the abstract: "The infidelity-detection hypothesis for oral sex proposes that men perform oral sex to gather information about their partner’s recent sexual history."
- Clearer Thinking | How to apologise
- Schumann, K., & Dragotta, A. (2020). Is moral redemption possible? The effectiveness of public apologies for sexual misconduct. Journal of Experimental Social Psychology, 90, 104002.
- Ohtsubo, Y., & Watanabe, E. (2009). Do sincere apologies need to be costly? Test of a costly signaling model of apology. Evolution and Human Behavior, 30(2), 114-123.
- I Was Wrong: The Meanings of Apologies by Nick Smith :: SSRN
- Dan Harmon Apologizes for Sexually Harassing Megan Ganz | Time