I Don't Do Handcuffs and Anal With My Wife

A lot of times men have an issue doing things like that because of the way that they have been internalized what it means to do that with a woman and if you're wifey. "It just comes down to an internalized misogyny and the patriarchy," she says. The advice I would give to both is focus less on the what and more on the why as sometimes in sex it's it's power play, pleasure play It's healing it's expressing like the what of it is just a function of why it is that you want to do those certain things"