When I hit back and try to hurt somebody else, that's an offense against God. You can't take care of the feelings of everybody in the world, but one must be sensitive. Swami Voteshanji was not only very kind, unemotionally. He was deeply loving and very gentle. To the extent that on the grass in one ashram, it was written in the lawn, walking on the grass is strictly prohibited.
"Do not pray for the fulfillment of your wishes, for they may not accord with the will of God. But pray as you have been taught, saying: Thy will be done in me (cf. Luke 22:42). Always entreat Him in this way - that His will be done. For He desires what is good and profitable for you, whereas you do not always ask for this." - Evagrius Ponticus.
Swami Sarvapriyananda speaks on Evagrius's teachings on prayer.