The Myth of Being Needy

There is such a thing as having an unreasonable level of needs. This is called, this is a word I hate, but in common parlance it's called being clingy or being a stage five clinger. However, as long as your needs are reasonable, you are only needy to a person who is incapable of meeting your needs. And so how would you talk about that with people like what's what's your stance on needs. and why is neediness a myth?