You've been married for 29 years. You're newly separated at 52. Your inbox is suddenly full of men in their twenties and thirties. And you're sitting there wondering: what the heck is going on?

A listener we call Confused in Coatesville shares:

"I'm separated a year in the process of divorce after 29 years of marriage. I'm 52 and I'm told that I look a lot younger. On dating apps, I'm getting hit up by a lot of 30-somethings and even late twenties. I have very little interest in somebody under the age of 40, considering that I have a 30-year-old myself. How do I get matches in my age range that would have an interest in me?"

In this episode, we unpack the real reasons younger men are reaching out, and what it actually means to date again after decades of marriage.

What You'll Hear:

Why younger men showing up in your inbox isn't random The difference between what you needed at 23 and what actually serves you now
How "I look younger than my age" might be working against your dating goals
Why an age gap hits different at 50 than it does at 25
The power of being strategic about which apps you use (and tracking your results)
Setting boundaries with matches who aren't aligned with you…without guilt

Ready to figure out what's actually working in your dating life?

Download the free Date Tracker at damonahoffman.com/datetracker to start tracking where your best matches come from and what patterns are showing up for you.

Got a question about dating after divorce, age gaps, or navigating the apps?

DM @DamonaHoffman on Instagram, TikTok, or Facebook, or leave a voicemail or text at 424-246-6255

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