Bryan: Influence not just about getting what you want, or asals quota, but it plays a role in our broader success and happiness. John has interaction with a neighbor whose nickname is bud, and he's based on a real person that i know,. Bryan: You get to see that giving isn't about what you're going to get from the other person most of the time. It's just about the feeling that you get in knowing that you've helped somebody. And then you start to realize your joy is almost unlimited because there's always opportunity to help others.