We can't lead in a reactionary way. We have to decide, what am i leading myself toward? And againas as you said, it goes toward ultimate versus immediate. Andy that leads to the third and final decision, i will not attempt to lead myself by myself. Yet when you hear the phrase self leadership, we immediately think, ill, i'm leading myself by ourselves. But but that's not true. In fact, you can't lead yourself well by yourself. The proof of that is something we all experienced in childhood,. or if youre a parents, something you've experienced with your your kids, but you kno back to us. Our best self leadership moments will be