Life is not actually a race. You don't have to be ahead of the pack. Recognize that it'so if your life is a dumpster fire, it's not actually a dumpsterFire. Focus on like, two or three things at a time, and it's ok to not be perfect. Like i think what one of the things that's happened is we've started to realize that a lot of this stuff is work that you need to spend some time on. So i get the sense that in my parents generation, no fault of theirs, but people weren't quite as cognizant about mental health  as they are now.