Come Home, I Want to Surprise You, Good Night

Deborah: When misunderstandings arise in close relationships as a result of these underlying differences in communication styles, it can send a big message to both parties that this relationship isn't working. Deborah: i think the trouble could be traced to the conversation where she feels that she was flirting and then didn't tell him directly, come home. And we talked about this earlier as well, the difference between people who prefer their speech to be direct and people who prefer to use more indirect speech. The way we say what we mean seems so obviously the way to do it but you really have to learn to step back and say, could this person that i love be using a different style?