Marriage is a gamble taken by two people who don't know yet who they are or who the other might be, binding themselves to a future they cannot conceive of. And so we don't have the mental space to go, you know what? I'm really going to open the lid on this and take a thorough investigation,. If it's not good, i'll just throw it away and i'll start again here. Will never tery anybody therre thought is just hideous. Despite tinder, t ha, haha, ha ha. It's still very rare to be in a position to find someone who even vaguely you could end up marrying. So we rush in, afraid of what