Attachment-Based Therapy and Self-Pity

If your therapist is encouraging you to wallow in self-pity, then it's time to get the hell out of there. Your free will isn't absolute. Even a genie is constrained inside a lamp, you know? There's no action without constraint. And all of your choices are constrained, not least by the fact that you have to keep yourself alive. So just because there are limitations that emerge as a consequence of the accumulation of past influences doesn't mean that you don't still have a massive domain of freedom.