i really wanted to get into some other stuff, but then we kind of just like, headed down the partner path. I intentionally avoided talking about control, cause we kind of did it with the l yes. It doesn't actually matter if that conversation goes well or not, if they have it with their spouse or non. What matters is what actions can you take? That's and again, it's more of a re framing, getting that focus back on, like, what can you do?