Sally Kohn: One thing that a lot of people at work connect over is having a partner and their kids. Do you have any advice for, if you're feeling socially excluded, cause you don't have children? She says there's nothing wrong with acknowledging the work that you do is something that we have in common.Kohn: Some people like to avoid shop talk and that's understandable. If you do shop talk too much, then you can be potentially seen as someone who doesn't have anything else to do.
If you aren’t married and don’t have kids, people at work might assume a lot of things: that you can stay late at the office, that you can’t possibly understand their stories about parenthood, that you just haven’t found the right partner (ugh). But those assumptions are often false. Single childless women have busy lives, close relationships with children like nieces or nephews — and many don’t want coupledom or motherhood.
We talk to two women who’ve been researching and writing about being a single childless professional. The writer Shani Silver shares her experience with the career pros and cons, and then Tracy Dumas, a professor at Ohio State University, gives research-backed advice for responding to bias and unrealistic expectations.
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