Ryan Holiday: So much of what we get angry about is not more important to us than our children or our marriages, it's not important at all. The writer Jan C. Dunn recently wrote in the New York Times about advice she and her husband got from a therapist. She was told that whenever she lost her temper with Tom he should pull out an old photo of them together for protection. Ryan holiday: I think this challenge is one of the best ones we've done over daily stoic. If you're trying to be better with your temper and your kids, I think this would be a great challenge for you.