How to Recognize and Validate Fears in Relationships

I gave this advice recently to some new clients of mine who are brand new to polyamory and I think especially in situations like what they're in. Building that first step of acknowledging and where you can validating a fear can do so much for not just building trust and building feelings of security but also for that person who does have those irrational fears it makes them feel just less stupid bringing them up. It's also a form of co-regulation it really builds closenessSo I encourage you to try it and really try to notice when you have that first reaction to reassure maybe take a breath maybe try to go inside a little bit acknowledge what you know to be true about yourself and then try