In improv class, the teacher shared all these examples about why we're horrible at this. But i think almost intuitively, or from what we read, we realize the importance of becoming an attentive listener yet. We also don't know how to properly listen, because nobody taught us right listen. And so that's why i think it's ingraind in us. Oh, well, i'm good enough at listening. I've been listening my whole life. It disappears off the report card. So we don't think, did you everhear anybody studying for a listening test? You kno.
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#370: Steve Herz: Don't Take Yes For An Answer
Notes:
- Sustaining excellence =
- Curiosity - Genuine interest
- A desire to learn and grow
- Finding uncommon commonalities:
- His parents went to Ohio University (which is where I graduated)
- Do your homework prior to meeting someone (as Steve did on me)
- Be actionable and intentional
- Meet someone on their turf. ACKNOWLEDGE them.
- Turner Smith:
- "Don't Take Yes For An Answer" -- Beware of the counter-fit yes. They are not helpful.
- "Don't live in an echo chamber of Yes."
- Seek feedback - Turner Smith not only didn't give Steve an offer... He gave him specific feedback as to why. Changed his life.
- Tough love with kindness
- Read the book: Seabiscuit. Knowing when to use carrots vs. sticks.
- Taking his shot with Alfred Geller - "I met him in a elevator and only had a few seconds. I asked to work with him... He said, 'meet me in my office at 8:00am tomorrow.'"
- "I downloaded his brain."
- "You need to perfect your A. W. E."
- John Kasich didn't use his voice properly. "Change your voice, change your life."
- Mid-level manager advice:
- "Act like you've been there before (like Barry Sanders)." Internalize it.
- "When you're walking your dog, who is walking who?"
- Providing feedback to his clients:
- "Joe Tessitore couldn't figure out how to modulate his voice."
- Don't get into the "vortex of mediocrity:"
- The most painful thing in the world is unfulfilled potential.
- Find the people who are able to give you critical feedback and listen.
- When he started his company, he called it IF after Rudyard Kipling’s poem by the same name which says, “If you can dream-- and not make dreams your master… yours is the Earth and everything that’s in it.”
- We are ALL in sales: Steven Shapiro, member of the board of overseers of University of Pennsylvania Law School, “We have a saying at the firm: You can buy a pound of brains at the butcher. I walk through the halls of the university, and there are many brilliant future lawyers. But they can’t look you in the eye in the hallway. In 15 years, this person may be writing law on the tax code, but they’re probably not going to have a lot of clients.” You know where lawyers, or salespeople, or consultants go when they don’t bring in business? Neither do I. Because you rarely hear about them ever again."
