I think we have to sort of give each other permission, particularly in a romantic scenario, to be friends with the opposite sex. I mean, I've been attracted to plenty of my friends and remain friends with them. You know, even in my own relationship now, my boyfriend has slept with his closest female friend and I don't feel threatened by it. And that if you're going to do a trade-off and you're saying that you're choosing one or the other, these are two people who are able to be friends and they haven't made it just about desire between the two people. It's really the other way around saying we're friends we're not just lovers. And