Have

you ever been in a long term relationship with somebody? Have

you even had a deep connection with somebody? So it's hard to

not to finally have a conversation honestly with somebody who.

I mean, your

husband, you have a husband. You that's your sole mate, from what i understand. That's my fuckin topic, period. Ye. You have kids? Ye. Here's your house. So i don't have those conversations often with people where i feel i don't have to defend myself,

says iif i'm defending myself.

And you're going to hear a lot of these conflicting emotions all throughout this discussion. So that, to me, doubles us down on our mission. And to be clear, our mission is to keep these opposite truths in at all times without judgment, in order to hear, not project, where she's at, so we can help her assess where she wants to go with things. Also, let's note that tea has volunteered herself to be used as an example of what this she asto shel not go exercise i strung together, ould look like and sound like. But as always with this podcast, the real point here is to give you jump off points to improve your intimate life. So the goal is that you'll listen to this, take some of these questions and conversation starters and apply them to enrich your own relationships, or the relationships of those people who you are close with and you have influence over all. Right. Now that we've gotten our mission statement down, before we formally go through this, there's three things that i want you to know about my frame of reference going into this guided exercise. Number one, and this is a point that my fa esther parrell made in one of her books. I can't recall which one. In essence, she was reflecting on how culturelly for our parents generation and older, there was so much society pressure for people to stay within their romantic partnerships beyond inconceivable breaches of trust, incompatibilities and lack in lapses of love. But our generation has over corrected in many ways, and now we're in the opposite end of the spectrum, where our finger is never too far from the trash button. Oh, that person cheated. Trash. Oh, that person missed your birthday. Trash. Mean to tell me that you told them what bothers you that one time, and then they've repeated it and they didn't change immediately? So in my line of work, i am very cognizant of this, and i make a strong effort not to lean too heavy on the just leave them advice. Because, on i ges that not that easy. Ind number two, i also have tons of ampathy for the fact that we're not taught how to love and how to be in romantic relationships. And as a result, most people are not that proficient at it, which means that a lot of the problems that you are facing in your exist in romantic bonds. If you leave that connection, it's likely going to be a similar brand of issue that will pop up in the next one. So at's some point you got to stick it out somewhere with some one and work through your shit. And if reasonably and safely possible to do that with the person you already have an existing romantic connection with. Why not? The second thing that i want you to know going into listening to this piece is. I just think one of the worst reasons to stay with someone is because of this.