Hey, I got some inside scoop. Or why does she say it like that? What is he? He thinks he's she terrible vibrational frequency. Terrible. You reap what you sow. Be that person, by the way, who not only doesn't do it, but walks away from it when it's happening. And if you really want to elevate, where I've gotten most of the time in my life now, by the way, why do I tell you this? I was somebody who would gossip. And then once I sort of said, I'm not gonna do that anymore. I was certainly somebody who was a receptacle for it. In fact, it got to the point where I thought, they think so low of me that they think it's okay to gossip to me about other people. And then I started to do this thing where I would just kind of like, and I would kind of get out of the way. And now I've gotten to the point where I go, Hey brother, can I just, can you just do me a favor? I don't want to hear anything like that about him. Right. Or anybody else. It's just not how I vibe. It's not how I get on. That's not my life. I don't, in that kind of dialogue. You're a great dude, brother. I think you're probably better than this, but I'm not the dude to talk that way about other people with. And I've gotten to that point and I just keep my energy as pure as I possibly can. And it served me. Okay. So it's going to come back on you. If you do it, stop doing it. Life lesson number 10, you are one decision away from changing your life i talk about that in the power of one more but it's a fact if you're listening to this right now or you're watching it you're one decision away by the way good or bad you could have things really rocking and rolling right now and you make that one decision and it goes the other way right so this is not just for the positive it can also be for the negative but if things aren't going your way right now you're one choice one decision one new thought maybe it's this list i've gone through of the 10 things you go that's the one decision i gotta make i gotta stop gossiping or you know what that one decision is i gotta stop waiting or that one decision is i'm gonna drop that weight i don't know what it is but i know this that you're always one decision away from upgrading and changing your life One new relationship one new thought one new podcast away from totally changing So ask yourself if I made one decision right now that would change my life What's that one decision? Maybe it's to get back to church or maybe it's to start going back into the gym and doing it Maybe it's to stop gossiping. Maybe it's to start my business. Maybe it's to start my brand Maybe it's to start my blog or my podcast or whatever it might be. You're one decision away. Maybe it's that, hey, I got to have that conversation where I apologize. Maybe I got to have that conversation now or that thought where that friend is going to go outside the inner circle into the middle circle or the distance circle, right? I don't know what it is, but you're one decision away from changing your life. And that's what's great about life. What's awesome about life is your past doesn't equal your future. You are not destined to have to be where you're going right now or where you currently are. You can change your life at any given time, at any given moment, in one moment, good or bad, you can make a decision and it at least sends your life in a new direction. It may not be in that second that you go, I just changed my life. It may be, but it might be that you will look back someday and go, it was that decision. It was that new relationship or it was getting out of that relationship or it was starting this business or it was adding this product to our portfolio over was that one investment I made, right? Or that one new friend or that friend I'm no longer friends with. That if I look back on it, that was the catalyst. That was the decision that changed my life. But it's great to know that in our life, that although we need God's favor and blessing, that we do have some dominion over our own lives. We have some domain to call shots in our life. Okay. Life lesson number 11. This is good, isn't it? What you're feeling is okay. What you're feeling is okay. Don't judge your feelings so often. I've allowed myself as I've gotten older in life to go, okay, it's okay that I'm feeling angry right now. It's okay that I'm feeling sad. It's okay that I'm a little bit depressed, right? It's okay that I'm excited. It's okay that I'm fired up. It's okay that I'm nervous. It's okay. It's okay that I'm anxious. What you're feeling is okay. Just remind yourself of that this week when you're feeling something or this year when you're feeling something. It's okay. You're not going to feel it forever. And it may be sending you a signal, I'm afraid. Well, fear is false evidence appearing real. You ever heard that? Not always. Sometimes what you're afraid of is legit, and it's your body or your heart or your spirit warning you to be more focused or vigilant, to be more aware, to be more discerning. What you're feeling is okay. Accept it. You're okay. It's all right. Last, well, I'm gonna give you a bonus one when we're done with the 12. Number 12, you should ask yourself more often, who do I want to be? Who do I want to be? I've learned in my life that usually you get who you are in life. And when you're regularly questioning, who do I want to be? Who do I want to be in this moment? Who do I want to be as a mother? Who do I want to be as a sister? And you can look at different angles of your life and ask yourself who you want to be in that role. Who do I want to be as a leader? Who do I want to be as a man? Who do I want to be as a woman? Who do I want to be as an athlete? Who do I want to be as a father? Who do I I want to be as a mother? Who do I want to be as a friend? Right? Who do I want to be as a child of God? Who do I want to be? And the more you focus on who you are and who you're becoming, the external results end up producing themselves because in life, we inevitably eventually attract who we believe we are. So this identity that we have is the most powerful force in the world that draws to us that which we want. You say, well, no, my faith is. Your faith should be the main part of your identity. That if you're truly a child of God, if he really holds you in the palm of his hand, right? If it's really true and you really believe that, that should be your identity. That you're favored. That his DNA runs through your veins, right? So who do I want to be is one of the most important questions of life. And it's a never ending question. It's not just for right now, six months from now, who do I want to be as a father? Who don't want to be as a, as a mother? Who don't want to be as a leader? Who don't want to be as a person of faith? Whatever that question is, who do I want to be is a powerful question. You should be asking yourself more regularly. And so those are my 12 lessons of life. And I'm going to give you a bonus one this week. You want me to do this every six or eight weeks? I can do it, right? Just different random life lessons that I'm learning or have learned, but I'll give you the bonus lesson. Get closer to God. You know that in my faith, I'm a Christian and the closer I've gotten to God and build a relationship with God, the more peace I have, the more clarity I have, the more discernment I have, whatever your faith is, get closer to it. It's the best thing you can do in your life. It's the ultimate question of your life. And you say, well, I don't have those questions answered. Then begin to ask them, begin to pursue it, begin to give yourself the gift of pursuing what you believe life's all about. Not just who you are, but whose you are. Who do I want to be is a really powerful question, but whose am I? Where do I come from? And where am I going? Is one of the most powerful questions you can be asking yourself on a regular basis. And so you know where I am in my faith. And I admire and respect you for pursuing yours. That's the pursuit of that relationship and finding that answer inside. Not from what your friends are doing or what social media tells you or even some church tells you. But your own personal relationship with God. And I can tell you that I believe of all of the life lessons of the 12, that that's the most important one for you to find out, to figure out, to build that relationship, to feel that level of peace in your own way. My friend, I just wish for you in your life, that relationship that the God you see in your image, in your likeness, that serves you, that cares for you, that comforts you, that you build that relationship and you work on that as you build all these other parts of your life. It'd be terrible to get through this entire life and figure out you, figure out all the ways to make money in business and get to the end of your life and never know why you were even here or where you're going when you leave. And so keep pursuing that question. Keep asking that question. And the more those answers come to you, I believe all these other things probably fall into place. All right, everybody, it's so good to be with you this week. 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