The Role of Caretaker and Problem Solver

When our role is caretaker and problem solver, is it ok to also be a real person? What happens when we ourselves need support? It's a really complex process that one goes through, both personally and relationally. The more affluent we get, the more we think of individual problems and goals as just that,. But when we have been in this network and we still value these relationships, how do we then even conceive of letinglon negot a different set of financial boundaries?