You want to transmit costly signals, devote time, and vulnerability. That vulnerability is sort of this kind of incremental disclosure and counter-disclosure that can unify. So if it's, you know, your scary rule was like, if it feels uncomfortable, that's probably a good idea. We draw a boundary there that's sort of artificial. It's really important to feel something organic there. And to feel that devotion, otherwise it's going to be really artificial.
Eric Barker teaches our curator Daniel Pink how to make friends, disarm marital conflicts, and spot liars.