How to Create a Friendship at Work

You want to transmit costly signals, devote time, and vulnerability. That vulnerability is sort of this kind of incremental disclosure and counter-disclosure that can unify. So if it's, you know, your scary rule was like, if it feels uncomfortable, that's probably a good idea. We draw a boundary there that's sort of artificial. It's really important to feel something organic there. And to feel that devotion, otherwise it's going to be really artificial.