The Hyper Focus Courtship

Understanding your partner is one of the most important parts of having a healthy, fulfilling relationship. But without ADHD resources available, ADHD-impacted relationships are challenged every single day and the unfortunate reality is this often leads couples to separate or divorce.

Today's episode is the continuation of our conversation with Melissa Orlov on how awareness and self-acceptance of ADHD can help save relationships and marriages. After establishing ADHDmarriage.com in 2007, Melissa has helped couples learn to thrive in ADHD-impacted relationships. Today, Melissa dives into hyperfocused courtship, looking at guilt and how the pressures of having ADHD can affect a couple and how defining and acknowledging ADHD symptoms can help guide the ADHD partner through rough patches.

Tune in now to learn more about ADHD, dating, and divorce from Melissa Orlov!

Join the conversation by reaching Lindsay via hello@refocusedpod.com or on social media at @lindsayguentzel now!

Highlights

• ADHD, marriage, and divorce

• What is hyperfocus courtship?

• Pressures felt by women with ADHD

• ADHD women and the biological clock

• Adult ADHD, guilt, and shame

• Dealing with ADHD in retirement

• Same-sex couples and ADHD

• How to create a healthy ADHD relationship?

About Melissa Orlov

Melissa Orlov is the founder of ADHDmarriage.com. She provides support groups, private couples counseling and consulting, professional training, and more. Recently, she launched couples' seminars via Zoom conducted twice a year. Resources about ADHD and ADHD-impacted relationships are also available on her blog.

Melissa is also an award-winning author, having published books about ADHD-impacted relationships - The ADHD Effect on Marriage (2010) and The Couple's Guide to Thriving with ADHD (2014).

To connect with Melissa, check out the links below:

• Website | www.adhdmarriage.com/

• LinkedIn | www.linkedin.com/in/melissaorlov

• Facebook | www.facebook.com/ADHDMarriage/

• Twitter | @msorlov

Resources from Melissa Orlov:

• The Couple's Guide to Thriving with ADHD |

• The ADHD Effect on Marriage: Understand and Rebuild Your Relationship in Six Steps |

Social Media Profiles

• Instagram: @lindsayguentzel // @adhdonline // @refocusedpod

• Twitter: @lindsayguentzel // @adhd_online // @refocusedpod

For more information on ADHD Online and ADHD assessments, medical management, and teletherapy, check out ADHDonline.com.

Check out Michelle Seitzer's What I've Learned as the Spouse of Someone with ADHD where the writer offers up eight things tips for people navigating the complexities of an ADHD partnership.

Show Credits

• Lindsay Guentzel, show host and executive producer

• Phil Rodemann, coordinating producer

• Sarah Platanitis, consulting and pre-production management

• Sarah Gelbard, writer and researcher

• Al Chaplin, social media production

Our incredible artwork was created by Sissy Yee of Berlin Grey.

The theme music for Refocused was created by Louis Inglis, a songwriter, and composer in Perth, Australia who was diagnosed with ADHD in 2020 at the age of 39. To learn more about the work he is doing, check out his online studio here. You can also email him at louisinglis1@gmail.com.

Bear Beat Productions helped with the audio editing and engineering and all of our episodes with Melissa Orlov were shot live in-person at PS Creative Studios in Phoenix.

Welcome to Refocused!

Lindsay Guentzel was almost 35 years old when she was diagnosed with ADHD. It turned out to be the answer she didn't know she was looking for.

The journalist and mental health advocate has teamed up with ADHD Online to explore the often misunderstood world of attention-deficit/hyperactivity disorder. Discover tools and mindset shifts to help you start living your best life.

Those old, outdated assumptions about ADHD? Refocused with Lindsay Guentzel is changing that narrative. Those stigmas have held us back for long enough. It's time to refocus our energy and we hope you'll join us.