The Importance of Contemplation in Change

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You can't convince someone to change, but that won't do much. You have to get them to a place where they've gone through this process in their own mind. The whole concept of the change takes place in the other person's head and it's not a copy paste thing. Even positive change is hard for people because we have to give up something that feels comfortable, familiar.

In Lori Gottlieb's new book, Maybe You Should Talk to Someone, she opens with a quote from James Baldwin that reads, "Nothing is more desirable than to be released from an affliction, but nothing is more frightening than to be divested of a crutch."

In this episode, we talk about therapy, how it works, the misconceptions around it, and how people go from resisting change to embracing the behaviors required to alter their own thoughts and feelings when stuck in destructive, unhealthy loops. You'll also learn the difference between idiot compassion and wise compassion.

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