How Do You Recognize Challenges in Your Life?

I'm just wondering how you talk to people about recognizing challenges in their life and obviously we have a choice to kind of go into a victim narrative which is the complaining narrative or to read your t-shirt and say work harder. My parents divorced when I was seven and I got this real dose of no one's gonna look out for you and you better figure it out on your ownUm now looking back I look at it as a great thing but at the time um it was I made it hard on me and i feel like it has armed us with what we need to succeed in the face of great challenge. Your childhood is why you're who you are right now it's made you