How to Stop Trying to Find Your Tribe

i didn't actually know myself very well, and i definitely didn't love myself. And so i was looking for something outside myself to give life meaning  to make the world make sense to me. Being a part of this organization that was like talking about spiral dynamics inspired me - it excited me. I think there were a lot of things within it that were really valid and interesting to be experimenting with. But just learning about a but my sense of self was being a defined, or being validated by this group and organization,. instead of me me ling reliant on myself. So the more that i've developed a relationship with myself and learned like to give myself validation, which essentially is another way