You cannot defeat what you cannot define. You have to identify the lie that has become a stronghold for you. Relying on your own power is self help, and self help only goes skin deep. To do both and experience success, we god's power. We cannot have victory without his strength and support. If God can take jesus from death to life then whatever you need can be done for you. This is the same mighty power that raised christ from the dead. That is incredible. The same power that raisedjesus from the dead is available to you and to me. Don't give up. Look up.